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Becoming a Proverbs 31 woman is not about following some guidelines about how to live your life, it’s all about embracing God’s Grace, will and purpose for your life.

It’s all about living like him.

Becoming a Proverbs 31 woman isn’t an attribute that is peculiar to only married women, its an attribute or quality or virtue that should be seen in women irrespective of whether you are single or married.

Before I dive deep, I would like to give a brief explanation on what it means to be a Proverbs 31 woman.

What is a proverbs 31 woman

A Proverbs 31 woman is one who lives like Christ.

She is one who looks and lives like her bridegroom.

The major duty of a groom is to see that his bride is properly groomed and conformed to his desires.

We are brides of Christ, and Christ is our bridegroom.

So I won’t be wrong to say that “to become a proverb 31 woman means to be groomed by Christ”.

A Proverbs 31 woman is one who aims at becoming all that the Lord has destined for her to become.

She is one who waits on the Lord to know what his desires his for her.

The Proverbs 31 is all about becoming and conforming to the very image of Christ.

The Proverbs 31 wasn’t focused on what the woman did but on the character and attributes she possessed.

Virtues of a Proverbs 31 woman

1. She loves the Lord

The heart of her husband safely trusts her; So he will have no lack of gain. She does him good and not evil All the days of her life.

(Proverbs 31:11-12 NKJV)

A proverb 31 woman is one who loves the Lord.

To love the lord means you are obedient to his guidelines and principles.

She is a woman that has an altar where she fellowships with the lord, her lamp does not go out at night, because she is always on her knees fellowshipping with her creator.

She knows the lord experientially, personally and intimately.

She is one that allows the lord directs her path.

2. She is an intercessor

She also rises while it is yet night, And provides food for her household, And a portion for her maidservants.

(Proverbs 31:15 NKJV)

The proverbs 31 woman is the one that watches over the nations, her family and her territories, nothing alters without her prior knowledge, nothing ‘becomes’ without her knowledge.

She intercedes for the nation, her family, and her territory till they come to the knowledge of her Bridegroom.

She is indeed an intercessor whose lamp never goes out.

3. She loves and feeds the poor

She extends her hand to the poor, Yes, she reaches out her hands to the needy.
(Proverbs 31:20 NKJV)

A proverbs 31 woman is one who feeds the young in faith with the word of God till they are fully grown and mature.

She goes out to win the lost soul to the lord, she extends the gospel of the kingdom to all and sundry, she feeds those that are poor in spirit till they come to the knowledge of Christ.

She is indeed a wonderful woman.

4. She is hardworking

She watches over the ways of her household, And does not eat the bread of idleness.

(Proverbs 31:27 NKJV)

A proverbs 31 woman is very hardworking, she does not procrastinate, she does the dishes at the right time, she cooks at the right time, she goes to work and does not have to wait all the time for what her husband, uncles, father, and mother has to give her.

Wisdom guides her into what she should and should not invest in.

She goes to the right place at the right time, she works with her hands and receives the fruit thereof.

5. She is beautiful within and without

Having been groomed by the bridegroom himself, she has a beautiful soul, she is guided by the Bridegroom on what to wear and what not to wear.

She is modest, beautiful, and smart in her outward appearance.

7. Her mouth is guarded

The proverbs 31 women isn’t found with other women gossiping, she keeps quiet when she has nothing to say.

And when she speaks, she speaks with wisdom and integrity, her words are a comfort to whosoever she speaks to.

Becoming a Proverbs 31 woman is a Journey, it’s not something you can do on your own, it takes God’s grace to become.

She opens her mouth with wisdom, And on her tongue is the law of kindness.

(Proverbs 31:26 NKJV)

8. She is trustworthy

Jesus loves all of us, but he does not trust all of us. Jesus would give himself wholly to whosoever trust in him, knowing fully well that you will serve him in truth and in spirit all your days.

The Proverbs 31 woman is one that the Bridegroom trust, he knows with her, there shall be multiple harvests.

He knows by her the souls of men would be won to the kingdom.

He trusts her to make wise decisions and steps.

A virtuous woman is one that God trust

The heart of her husband safely trusts her; So he will have no lack of gain. She does him good and not evil All the days of her life.

(Proverbs 13:11-12 NKJV)

3 ways to become a Proverbs 31 woman


The Proverbs 31 is about becoming, so to ‘become’ you have to

1. Pray and ask the Lord to help you.

2. His grace is enough for you, ask for his grace to help you ‘become’

3. Dig deeper into God’s word because the word of God has the ability to remold you.

4. Partner with a friend of like mind, scripture says ” iron sharpeneth iron”

I ask that the Lord bestow upon you the grace to become, in Jesus’ name.


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Samy · May 19, 2020 at 5:17 pm

I’d like to believe I’m a Proverbs woman…I know I can be one thanks to your insightful article.

    victoria · May 19, 2020 at 4:31 pm

    I am glad you loved the post

Cristina Petrini · May 20, 2020 at 3:24 pm

Your point of view and guide to faith is always very pleasant and inspiring, that’s why I read you.

    victoria · May 20, 2020 at 3:51 pm

    Wow! Thank you ma

Morgan · May 20, 2020 at 4:04 pm

The Proverbs 31 woman is so inspiring and a little intimidating. I pray that one day I can embody all of her characteristics

    victoria · May 20, 2020 at 4:34 pm

    Hmmm it’s not for you to embody and you don’t need to be intimidated, all you need do is to ask for his help, because of you think you can do it on your own, you will be exhausted, trust him to help you, remember the Proverbs 31 is all about the ‘becoming’ and the ‘doing’ the former depends on God’s grace while the latter will exhaust you.

Samy · May 20, 2020 at 7:08 pm

Just another biblical cup of coffee for all my other proverbs women…Jeremiah 29:11 ❤

Surabhi · May 21, 2020 at 8:32 am

Very enlightening! Thanks for sharing

Belle · May 21, 2020 at 10:48 am

The modern world needs more article like this, definitely enlightening!

Ina · May 21, 2020 at 11:20 am

Amazing post. Thank you for sharing!

Jen @ Jenron Designs · May 21, 2020 at 2:49 pm

This reminds a bit of the Eastern Stars that my grandmother was a part of, they have very similar views and ideals. Honestly the world just need more good no matter what group your are in.

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